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Pornography has taken a toll on family formation amongst the Latter-day Saints.

Now, of course, these comments were all from the women’s perspective because it was a Relief Society meeting, but the men in our ward have similar feelings—that they are under great pressure to do the dating thing just right.

It is about finding someone who loves the Lord and wants to grow with you, because you have already been growing together.

The checklist is artificially created and includes qualities one supposes one wants in a spouse.

Instead of just a social outing with a friend you are getting to know, each date becomes an audition for marriage.

Young single adults think they have to move fast and know quickly.

They had opportunities to interact with and get to know many, many people.

Dating was simply a form of social life, without overly heavy baggage attached.Consequently many singles dated often and with many people before they began to even consider marriage. I have asked young single adult women why they won’t go on a second date with a boy, and they answer because I don’t think I will marry him.That may be clear in some cases where someone doesn’t live the standards you appreciate, but how can you begin to know someone if you have hardly interacted with them?It makes me feel like I’m always on the line and I have to second guess myself to fit into what the boys would find attractive.”“I feel like I have to look and say and do everything just right to get a date, and if I do, I am self-conscious that I won’t get asked out again unless I live up to his idea of what a girl should be like.It makes it hard to be natural.”“I just wonder why nobody seems to want me.”“I haven’t been out on a date in three years.”“It is difficult to get to know boys.If I talk to a boy as a friend, he thinks I am flirting with him hoping he will ask me out.”“I know how important it is to choose the right person to marry, and that weighs heavily upon me. It also means dating is a very weighty thing for me, because I know so much of my happiness depends upon it—and it doesn’t seem to be happening.”“I feel worried because I am soon to graduate and I haven’t found anybody.”“I feel like I can’t plan my life because if I move for school or a job to someplace where there aren’t a lot of LDS guys, will I ever meet anyone?

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