Problems with dating a psychologist

“There is an occupational hazard of spending the whole day listening attentively and not really wanting to listen to your husband when you get home,” said Dr. All the therapists we interviewed said that couples therapy was the unexpected source of much introspection about their own marriages.

“But we rarely talk about it.”Other therapists might insist their marriages are like those of less self-aware civilians, but signs to the contrary creep in.

“I think sometimes people who are not in the field have this fantasy that we must diagnose each other but really our day-to-day life and our family looks so normal you wouldn’t know that we’re therapists,” said Wendy E.

In fact, he said, she would probably say the opposite.

He then lamented therapists who “have a fake calmness or neutrality about them all the time.”Other difficulties faced by therapist couples include both having to work evening hours to accommodate clients’ schedules and not feeling particularly motivated to listen to one’s spouse talk about his or her emotional travails after having listened to other people talk about their problems all day.

Steve might be an extremist in his separation of therapy and life.

He says that when he gets home from work he’s so sick of it he can’t even watch television shows about therapy.Sternin,” says Sam when Frasier walks into Cheers for a beer after his first encounter with Lilith. “Maybe the reason he doesn’t like vegetables is because they remind him of his mother,” says Lilith, sitting at the bar. At one point Frasier hypnotizes Lilith to remove her severe black stilettos every time anyone says “brie cheese” and to unbutton her shirt when he says “tambourine.” And then there are the moments of passion.“Dear, you’re using sex to express your aggressions towards the confines of polite society,” says Lilith. “I love that.” Passionate embrace, laugh track, etc.So what’s it really like when therapists marry each other?Perfectly normal, or at least that’s how present it.“We try and steer clear of being all psychotherapeutic about everything,” said Steve, a Manhattanite who preferred not to use his last name.Episode after episode, season after season, the joke, once unleashed, never got old.

Tags: , ,